Saying too much, meaning too little

I often overlook the meaning of simple vows. At Church we have been going through the book of Ecclesiastes, and the guidance in chapter 5 has left me stricken with reality. I often vow, and am vowed to, in a manner now worthy of the title vow; it should rather be called "a fleeting, brown-nosing, way of agreeing to something so you shut up and leave me alone". How often does this occur to one another, and to God?


I won't dive into details, because I believe every person does comits this act of "empty vows"; but I can quickly identify areas where I have given empty vows simply to seem agreable, or to avoid questioning or conflict. Maybe I should just say no. "No, I don't want to do that" as opposed to the usual: "Yeah, that sounds good....". I do it all the time, not even in situations where I don't want to, but in situations where I know I can't- because I fear the way I might make someone feel rejected. When you experience this yourself, you learn that an empty vow is much more displeasing than no vow at all. 


Where do I get all of this from? "It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it. ⁶ Do not let your mouth lead you into sin." -Ecclesiastes 5. 


Obviously God has really sealed these words into my mind. I am looking at my life, my society, my view of things and realizing how disgustingly empty every vow seems to be- and how horribly backwards the vows we stick to seem to be. I often stick to vows I think will make me appear more presentable and void the vows that mean the most- the vows I make to others. The small ones, and the big ones. So here's my latest vow to everyone:
         if I commit to something, I will to hold to it; the big things, the small things. If 
         If I cannot, will not, or do not want to do something, I will not say I can or will           
         or might. I will try to make my vows that are emotional mean something, if I tell 
         you I love you- I will try to show it and not just say it and leave it visibly void.
         I will not write checks my ass can't cash. :-)